A representation of our personal thresh-hold.
These are dependent on our past experiences and conditioning.
We need to be aware of present boundaries and their strength or weakness. This usually becomes apparent when we feel discomfort around a situation that we allowed and then later felt was not ok.
As the awareness is respected we can then create an intention. I will be more..... I will respect my needs... and commit to staying with this intention until discomfort moves to a different place.
Some people experience a delay in response, which can be days or even weeks to an event. This is a form of shock or trauma. This pattern can relate directly to experiences of a traumatic nature in the past.
If we feel this numbness or inability to connect to a situation or make any decision, it is best to step away. Create space and nourish yourself until the trauma lifts and you can be clearer about your needs.
The strengthening of boundaries is necessary until we can be fully supportive of ourselves and know what is serving our highest needs.
Eventually we can simply be with this knowing and at the same time appreciate everyone is on their own exploration and it is a choice for us to join them or be else-where.
The rigidity of the boundary then becomes the circle of acceptance, understanding and compassion.
As Goethe said "Until one is committed there is a hesitancy, a chance to hold back, always ineffectiveness concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans, the moment one commits oneself then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to assist one that never would otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events, issues from this decision, raising in ones favour, all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no person could have dreamed would ever come their way. Whatever you can do or believe you can do, begin it, for boldness has Genius magic and power in it. Begin it Now.